(Just a quick something so my Blog doesn’t feel lonely)
So I guess the fraise might have something to do with the words as we break them down.
Relation … nice and basic isn’t it?
It means stuck with someone for some reason that might not be obvious but still holds to the fact that you are stuck until said word is dissolved or you are dead.
Ship … must come from the old days when a boat was on smooth water and enjoyable and like the see can be in a moments time, and without warning I might add, all goes crazy and you are in the middle of a hurricane.
This I have come to see, over my many, many years, can come from just about anything.
Not answering a question quick enough because you actually tried to give it thought, being honest, not being honest, coming home a little late with the smell of perfume and red lipstick on your shirt …
Or, it can come from just one person trying to say something and the other just not hearing it, as it was meant to be heard.
Then that being followed up with other people’s thoughts, or insecurities, and how the other person is seeing the issue instead of how it is meant to be.
The next issue is, how to deal with the … conflict, no … fight, no … issue, no … WAR!
That’s right, lets skip the little things like do we go to get burgers or taco’s for dinner and jump right on into the big stuff, like, hum … I want a darn Taco and she wants a Burger … we have issues :p
Back to the point though, we have come to know that there are three sides to the story, hers, mine and right/mine.
So, take a second, not to long or you will get in trouble, and take a breath and try and figure out what in the world your crazed significant other is trying to say.
Remember that you love them and that with DNA testing it is harder and harder to hide the body.
Also, remember that divorce equals alimony … yea good reason to let her win!
Lastly, you are with them for a reason and in the end they are worth the little fights ever once and awhile … if it is more regular, seek therapy at your local tavern!
Somehow we all say things that seem innocent and simple but the other takes it to far and thinks it was said to be mean and hurtful … OK this is true sometimes but I blame Wonder Mutt when that happens saying that she told me to say it … no it doesn’t help.
Things I don’t understand as a guy though are:
1) If I say I don’t care … why doesn’t that count as an answer?
2) If I say it’s OK, why do I need to be asked 3 more times to make sure it’s ok?
3) If the phone rings, why do we HAVE to answer it?
4) Why is it a problem if I am not hungry?
5) Why the Make-Up can’t be put on during the drive instead of when we get there?
6) If something is bothering you, why not make a better point to say it instead of waiting till latter and festering over it?
That’s just a few things though … I have SO many more!
My point is, we all have stress, we all have problems, we all have things going on that we hide and keep to ourselves or just don’t realize are as bad as they seem.
We get into these ‘Sticky-Boats’ for a reason, be kind to each other and try to be helpful and considerate as time needs sometimes.
Most importantly though … I will almost never admit I am wrong and getting an apology out of me is a wish at best.I am right … it might not make any since but in my head I am and that’s all that matters!
So I guess the fraise might have something to do with the words as we break them down.
Relation … nice and basic isn’t it?
It means stuck with someone for some reason that might not be obvious but still holds to the fact that you are stuck until said word is dissolved or you are dead.
Ship … must come from the old days when a boat was on smooth water and enjoyable and like the see can be in a moments time, and without warning I might add, all goes crazy and you are in the middle of a hurricane.
This I have come to see, over my many, many years, can come from just about anything.
Not answering a question quick enough because you actually tried to give it thought, being honest, not being honest, coming home a little late with the smell of perfume and red lipstick on your shirt …
Or, it can come from just one person trying to say something and the other just not hearing it, as it was meant to be heard.
Then that being followed up with other people’s thoughts, or insecurities, and how the other person is seeing the issue instead of how it is meant to be.
The next issue is, how to deal with the … conflict, no … fight, no … issue, no … WAR!
That’s right, lets skip the little things like do we go to get burgers or taco’s for dinner and jump right on into the big stuff, like, hum … I want a darn Taco and she wants a Burger … we have issues :p
Back to the point though, we have come to know that there are three sides to the story, hers, mine and right/mine.
So, take a second, not to long or you will get in trouble, and take a breath and try and figure out what in the world your crazed significant other is trying to say.
Remember that you love them and that with DNA testing it is harder and harder to hide the body.
Also, remember that divorce equals alimony … yea good reason to let her win!
Lastly, you are with them for a reason and in the end they are worth the little fights ever once and awhile … if it is more regular, seek therapy at your local tavern!
Somehow we all say things that seem innocent and simple but the other takes it to far and thinks it was said to be mean and hurtful … OK this is true sometimes but I blame Wonder Mutt when that happens saying that she told me to say it … no it doesn’t help.
Things I don’t understand as a guy though are:
1) If I say I don’t care … why doesn’t that count as an answer?
2) If I say it’s OK, why do I need to be asked 3 more times to make sure it’s ok?
3) If the phone rings, why do we HAVE to answer it?
4) Why is it a problem if I am not hungry?
5) Why the Make-Up can’t be put on during the drive instead of when we get there?
6) If something is bothering you, why not make a better point to say it instead of waiting till latter and festering over it?
That’s just a few things though … I have SO many more!
My point is, we all have stress, we all have problems, we all have things going on that we hide and keep to ourselves or just don’t realize are as bad as they seem.
We get into these ‘Sticky-Boats’ for a reason, be kind to each other and try to be helpful and considerate as time needs sometimes.
Most importantly though … I will almost never admit I am wrong and getting an apology out of me is a wish at best.I am right … it might not make any since but in my head I am and that’s all that matters!
2 comments:
Put on make-up during the drive?!?!?! Geesh . . . men! I don't want to poke my eye out, with the mascara, or over draw all over my face with my lipstick and I'm willing to bet your sweet wife doesn't, either. Geesh.
From the man's point of view:
You are in a lose/lose situation. You don't care, yet everything is okay. You don't answer the phone and you tell the truth at any cost. Note: I don't answer make-up questions. I'm a guy!!!
My guess is that the questions were really rhetorical and you really don't want answers. That's good. You're showing much better judgement already. I would think you know by now that "Men Are From Mars And Women Are From Venus", so therefore we not only can't communicate, but our factions are, and have been, at war since we set eyes on each other. You are better off not trying to win, but rather break even. If you have the right mindset it's just like winning with the prize of not being humiliated in public, then reminded of the loss every day for the rest of your pathetic life. It's not a "second loser" thing, but more of a "second winner" thing. She thinks she won and you think you won. Now go to your neutral corners and come out fighting.
This from a man who lost $102,000 in the first divorce. Forget what I said. Clearly my logic sucks...
I'm just sayin...
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